Accept and adapt to what you can't control
For the things you can't control, the speaker uses an accept-and-adapt pair of phrases: an acceptance phrase like 'it is what it is' or 'I can't change it,' followed by 'let's make the most of it.' He contrasts this with the opposite response, fighting it internally the whole time, which he says leaves you constantly frustrated.
Channel: Mark Immelman
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He calls these 'gray circle' items, the things outside your control.